I've spent the last year figuring out what the hell to do with my life in the aftermath of a seven year relationship ending. All the while, I've gotten to watch friend after friend excitedly change their Facebook status to "engaged," post ring photos, and then share bazillions of shots of the ensuing weddings and babies. Yes, I'm happy for all of my friends who are engaged and newly married. Yes, your child is so delightfully adorable that I just want to EAT HIS FACE! But perhaps there are other cool things we can be talking about on Facebook, and making a giant fuss over in general?
Because lately the only thing I've been thinking when I've logged into Facebook is, "when did everyone's life suddenly become all about getting married and having kids? And where does that leave me?"
I'm actually pretty convinced that at least some of the people who are getting "engaged" are half-heartedly jumping into that commitment because a bunch of other people just announced that they're "engaged" on Facebook. I'm not thinking of anyone in particular, just saying that statistically, there's at least a few - and that's not good or fair to anyone. Relationships are hard enough without all this social pressure bearing down on us all the damn time.
So I propose a solution. I think Facebook should start making use of all the information it has about current and former relationship status - length of relationship status, recency of change, etc. - to make the user experience just more inclusive for those of us who have absolutely no idea when, or if, we'll get our turn to be the special shiny girl in the pretty white dress.
Here are some example customer requirements to consider:
1. Dealing with the Ex
Where a user has a relationship status of "single" or no relationship status, but was previously "in a relationship," for twice the length of time the user was "in a relationship," the system shall not:
2. Dealing with EVERYONE ELSE in the ENTIRE WORLD who is GETTING MARRIED!!!! (OMG OMG!!!)
Where a user has a relationship status that has recently been changed from "in a relationship," for twice the length of time the user was "in a relationship," the system shall not:
3. Dealing with Ads
Where a user has a relationship status that has recently been changed from "in a relationship," for twice the length of time the user was "in a relationship," the system shall not:
4. What to do instead
Where a user has a relationship status that has recently been changed from "in a relationship," for twice the length of time the user was "in a relationship," the system shall inundate the user with how cool it is to be single. Specifically, the system shall:
And yet, you can bet I'll be back there Thursday.
Mr. Stewart was very gracious, even as he refused to pose for photos or shake hands. He explained that he has to stay as healthy as possible. So cool to speak with him though, even briefly. Even in his 70's, he's easily one of the sexiest men I've ever seen.
Too bad he's married...