From Teresa to Tae http://teresavaldezklein.com Music stuff, geeky stuff, political stuff, feminist stuff. posterous.com Wed, 23 May 2012 07:52:00 -0700 New Record Out June 12: Read the press release here... http://teresavaldezklein.com/new-record-out-june-12-the-press-release http://teresavaldezklein.com/new-record-out-june-12-the-press-release

POWERHOUSE SINGER/SONGWRITER TAE PHOENIX 

RELEASES NEW RECORD, RISE, ON JUNE 12

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23 May 2012…Seattle-based singer/songwriter Tae Phoenix will release her new eight-track record, RISE, on June  12.  The revelatory collection introduces Tae as both a profound and fearless songwriter as well as a vocalist of stunning prowess.

With a three-octave range, she punctuates her classical voice training with evidence of a misspent youth imitating the great pop divas. She has played for audiences as far away as Surabaya, Indonesia and Paris, France.

Invoking the vocally muscular female singers from the ‘80s, like Pat Benetar and Chrissie Hynde, and the intimate, boundary-less female writers from the ‘90s like Alanis Morissette and Liz Phair, Tae brings to light many universally shared experiences (loss, abuse, self-discovery) through lyrical storytelling.  RISE’s opening track, “Wendy’s Tale,” is a playful yet painful view of Peter Pan from Wendy’s point of view.   “I Loved You Then” is a loving tribute to a deceased friend, with Tae’s warm vocal backed only by a string quartet.  Calling out the bad behavior of a former lover, “Does She Know Yet?” is the first single from RISE.  

Not all the tracks are quite as challenging and provocative; “Rise” is an uplifting anthem to self-awareness and self-preservation, and “You Raised the Bar” is an aural high-five to an excellent man.

RISE was produced and engineered by two-time Grammy winner Pete Stewart (Toby Mac, Tait, Grammatrain), who also played guitar and bass.   Contributing players include Andy King on percussion, Andrew Joslyn on violin, Jonathan Icasas on viola, Rachael Beaver on cello, and Daryl Rother with string arrangements.

 

RISE will be available on iTunes, Amazon, Spotify, Google Play, and www.taephoenix.com.   For more information and to connect with Tae, visit www.facebook.com/TaePhoenix or follow her on Twitter at twitter.com/TaePhoenix.

RISE TRACK LIST

1) Wendy's Tale 

2) Beautiful Lies 

3) Does She Know Yet? [Clean]

4) Rise 

5) I Loved You Then 

6) You Raised the Bar 

7) Set Me Free 

8) Does She Know Yet? [Explicit]

 

MP3:   “Does She Know Yet” (Clean) 

http://ow.ly/9Cprq

 

VIDEO:   “Does She Know Yet” (live)

 

VIDEO:   “I Loved You Then” (live)

 

For more information, review copies, interview requests, and photos, please contact Deborah @ Spinner PR on 323.467.7633 or brosseaupr@aol.com.

 

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Mon, 30 Apr 2012 22:03:00 -0700 A Big Announcement: My Residency at EVO http://teresavaldezklein.com/a-big-announcement-my-residency-at-evo http://teresavaldezklein.com/a-big-announcement-my-residency-at-evo

About

A few months ago, I was out doing karaoke when I met eminent Seattle restauranteur Todd Nordahl. We bonded over our shared penchant for Barbra Streisand ballads, and the next thing I knew, I had a standing Friday-night gig - a "residency" in industry parlence - at EVO, his hot new restaurant and cabaret opening this week on Capitol Hill

Your first chance to see me play will be this Friday night at 10:00 p.m NEXT FRIDAY NIGHT (5/11) at 10:00 PM. The entire gig list appears below. Please do come on down and be sure to bring / tell your friends! :-)

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Sun, 15 Apr 2012 22:03:00 -0700 Why Music? Why Now? http://teresavaldezklein.com/why-music-why-now http://teresavaldezklein.com/why-music-why-now
Music is and always has been therapy for me. Some people journal, some paint, I write songs.
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And I firmly believe that art therapy is a reality for everyone - since everyone is an artist.

Now, at the risk of sounding like a total tool, I'll say that I actually have the musical talent to turn the byproduct my art therapy into a successful commercial product. But for me these days the potential ends of recording and performing my music are not really the point. My horoscope from this week's Free Will Astrology (I'm a Taurus) said it best:

There is a possibility that a pot of gold sits at the end of the rainbow. The likelihood is small, true, but it's not zero. On the other hand, the rainbow is definitely here and available for you to enjoy.

So yeah, I'm enjoying the rainbow right now. I'm enjoying the hell out of it. And it's making me happier than I have been in a long, long time.

What's your rainbow?

 

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Sat, 03 Mar 2012 14:20:00 -0800 Free Single! New Shows in Seattle and at SXSW! http://teresavaldezklein.com/free-single-new-shows-in-seattle-and-at-sxsw http://teresavaldezklein.com/free-single-new-shows-in-seattle-and-at-sxsw

On March 13th, "Does She Know Yet?" will be available on iTunes, Amazon, Spotify, Google Music and everywhere else fine music is sold! Until then, you can download it for free from my Facebook page. All you need to do to get the single is sign up for my mailing list, so I can let you know where I'll be playing.

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If you happen to be in Seattle this week, or if you're going to SXSW, be sure to come out and see me perform. I'll be performing alongside Roem Baur at several artist showcases, and I have my own showcase on March 16th. Here's the complete list of events:

And speaking of live performances, I hope to have some very exciting news to share with you in the near future. So stay tuned! :-)

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Tue, 14 Feb 2012 11:34:00 -0800 When it comes to how we memorialize genius, sex and race play a huge role. http://teresavaldezklein.com/when-it-comes-to-how-we-memorialize-genius-se http://teresavaldezklein.com/when-it-comes-to-how-we-memorialize-genius-se

They were both undeniable geniuses who revolutionized their respective fields. They were both known drug users prone to bizarre behavior and an occasionally disheveled public appearance. Each had romantic ups and downs. Neither was considered a model parent. And yet the discussion around their deaths couldn't be more different.

So what exactly is the difference between Steve Jobs and Whitney Houston? 

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One was a white man. The other was a black woman.

It's that simple. When a high-achieving white man has a complex, charismatic personality replete with large public foibles, he's a genius. When a black woman with a similar level of genius and impact on her industry dares to have even a hint of a difficult personality - or personal difficulty - she's a diva, a bad mother, or worse a no-good, low-down, dirty crack whore.

I'm sick and tired of hearing about how Whitney Houston deserved what she got because she abused her body. Steve Jobs tried to cure his fucking cancer with apple juice and nobody dragged his memory through the mud for abusing his body - or at least not to the degree that Ms. Houston is currently being subjected to. I'm sick and tired of hearing about how Whitney Houston was a bad mother. Steve Jobs was a classic narcissist whose own daughter was quoted in his biography as saying, “Sometimes I wish I had more of his attention“but I know the work he’s doing is very important and I think it’s really cool, so I’m fine. I don’t really need more attention.” If that isn't a sign of a child responsible for taking care of her self-absorbed father's needs then I don't know what is.

Steve Jobs was an undeniably great man. He had some major personal issues, and he still managed to change the world. Why can't we put our sexism and racism aside and remember Whitney Houston the same way?

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Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:46:38 -0800 My Valentine's subverts for #occupyvday 2012! http://teresavaldezklein.com/my-valentines-subverts-for-occupyvday-2012 http://teresavaldezklein.com/my-valentines-subverts-for-occupyvday-2012 This Valentine's Day, I made two Facebook ads.

The first one is targeted at 10,276,560 women in the U.S. whose relationship status is set to "single" and who are "interested in" men.

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It links to Samhita's post on Feministing about some ideas for occupying Valentine's Day.

The second one is targeted to everyone in Washington State who are 18 or older:

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It links to the Equal Rights Washington website and encourages people to make a contribution in favor of preserving marriage equality in Washington State.

How are you occupying VDay? Any other subvertisers out there want to tackle the holiday with me?

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Tue, 24 Jan 2012 14:16:00 -0800 Breaking up with a Narcissist: The dull, chronic pain...of anger, resentment and disgust http://teresavaldezklein.com/breaking-up-with-a-narcissist-the-dull-chroni http://teresavaldezklein.com/breaking-up-with-a-narcissist-the-dull-chroni

I was really excited after The Current Conscience's Yashar Ali posted this on his Facebook page last week: 

Do you ever find yourself wondering why you can't get a stupid guy out of your mind, sometimes months and months (and years) later when you are focused and determined in every other part of your life? Do you ever wonder how a guy in your life can move on so quickly when you're left still suffering?
 
I got out of a terrible relationship midway through last year and I still find myself frequently reliving all the nasty, emotionally abusive things he did to me. I was really hoping for an insightful post from Yashar about recovering from a breakup with a narcissist and the "it's not you, it's really, really him" talk that needs to happen over and over again in the aftermath.

But then came this disappointing post about the pain of heartbreak, and the way that men cover it up. A valid post to be sure, but certainly not what I'd hoped for. That's when I realized that if there was going to be a blog post about what it feels like to break up with a narcissist, I was going to have to write it.

I was with my ex - let's call him Wolf - for about a year. We'd started out dating casually. I was clear that I didn't want anything serious. About a month in, he declared in that he was falling in love with me.

I went back and forth for a while deciding what to do, but in the end I decided to give it a shot. After all, what is more worthy of a leap of faith than love?

But as soon as I committed, the man who had once begged to pick me up from the airport disappeared. I couldn't get him to commit to something as simple as a weekend away. He kept trying to shoehorn me in between soccer games and game nights with his friends. A tough situation at work left me drained and upset, and he balked at spending too much time listening to me as I hashed through my strategy. 

A pattern of little lies and vagaries emerged - about the last time he'd had an STI panel, about his previous relationships, about why he was three hours late to meet me on Christmas Night. I suggested that we see other people - but he swore up and down that he didn't want me to make that sacrifice, even as he made it clear that he found just about every other woman he met incredibly attractive. 

I put up with being treated that way much longer than I should have - that's my baggage.

The end came when I returned from a long business trip, during the last leg of which I learned that one of my childhood best friends had died of the heart defect that had plagued him over the course of his entire life. I was devastated. Wolf came over that night, but was just as distant and inattentive in subsequent days as he had always been. I needed support and he was out to lunch.

I confronted him. I told him firmly that I found his behavior to be disrespectful of my time, energy and emotional investment. He accused me of being hostile. He held up his coming over the night my friend died as if it had been a heroic act of self-sacrifice given that he had a meeting the next morning and had planned to spend the evening at home playing video games. 

I backed off - rationalizing that I was oversensitive due to the death of my friend. I even apologized for confronting him. But I continued to feel drained, used, utterly dissatisfied with what I was getting from a relationship with someone who supposedly loved me.

Six weeks later, I confronted him again - this time so gently that I could probably have walked over eggshells without cracking them. Then he dropped the bombshell, "I don't love you. I never loved you."

The bottom dropped out of my world. My friend was dead. My boyfriend - the same guy who changed the rules on me by declaring his love - had now decided that the premise for our whole relationship had never been true. Talk about a run around.

I broke up with him, and then I spent the next two weeks attempting to move on. He sent a long, melodramatic e-mail telling me what a miserable coward he was. We talked a couple of times. He told me he still wanted me. I was skeptical, but willing to listen - again, my baggage.

We had plans to get together on a Friday night in late September. As I was going to meet him, I got an e-mail from a mutual friend of ours confessing that they'd slept together a couple of times right after we broke up. I almost stood him up, but instead I came to the restaurant and told him respectfully that his sleeping with our friend so soon after we broke up was hurtful to me. He didn't seem to think I had any right to be upset. Then he told me that he'd met yet another woman, and that after just three dates she was the only one he wanted to see. He told me that she was very sweet, and that her father had died when she was sixteen years old.

He walked me home and as we said goodbye in the parking lot of my apartment, he tried to kiss me. And that's when I knew.

I went inside and puked my guts out. I was so disgusted. It was like I'd been unknowingly injected with some kind of drug that made me hallucinate a decent, loving young man where a slimy, lying loser stood. I questioned everything he'd ever told me. It was like I was waking up from a dream within a nightmare. I thought about that poor young woman he had just started dating, and how the pain of being used by him would surely trigger whatever feelings of abandonment she still struggled with from her father's death. I was furious with nowhere to direct my rage.

I am proud to be friends with most of my exes. The guy who broke my heart in college? I'm going to his wedding this summer. The guy I was engaged to? We call on birthdays. The guy I dated after that? He's helping me with the strings arrangements for my new record. But Wolf? Never.

And yet, I'm in pain every day. But it's not the pain Yashar talks about. It's the pain of knowing that the connection between us has to die, that the feelings I developed for this person can never be expressed in any form, because the person I loved never really existed. It's the pain of knowing that he'll never be capable of hearing my anger, understanding what he did wrong, apologizing, and making amends. It's the pain of knowing that he never truly saw me for the wonderful, kind-spirited, flawed person that I am - and that he never will.

And sometimes I wonder about the nice young woman he started dating that September. Are they still together? How does he treat her? Does she know yet? I wish I could give her my number so I can be there to help when he does it to her, too.

Yashar's original post on Facebook drew a lot of comments - I wish that some of them had more closely informed what he wrote. Most particularly this one by a very smart woman named Charlene Ann Jardine:

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Sat, 21 Jan 2012 16:37:00 -0800 Becoming Tae Phoenix http://teresavaldezklein.com/becoming-tae-phoenix http://teresavaldezklein.com/becoming-tae-phoenix
You may have recently noticed that I've changed my handle to "TaePhoenix" across my various social networking presences.

So who is this Tae Phoenix character and why has she taken over my online life? Tae is my stage name for my new gig as a singer-songwriter and pianist. This part of my life has been on the back burner the last few years - but I'm bringing it back.

I'll still be talking about tech geekery and feminist activism. In addition, I'll be talking about music I love and the musicians, producers, and studios that I'm working with as I develop my first studio album in almost a decade. I will also post information about where to see me play live. Gigs will mostly be in the Seattle area, but I've been known to jump on random airplanes - so you never know where I'll turn up. 

For instance, I'll be playing some of my original music the open mic at the Skylark in West Seattle this Wednesday night (1/25).

If you don't want to miss a gig, make sure to sign up for my mailing list here: http://taephoenix.fanbridge.com/

A few Q&A's appear below:

Where can I get your music?

I'm working on my first studio album in almost ten years. A lot is still up in the air, but the music is written. If you want to hear it performed, come see me at the Skylark in West Seattle on Wednesday, January 25th at 9:00 p.m. (Facebook event)

If you're interested in getting your hands on my earlier work, I'll be happy to share. Drop me an e-mail at TaePhoenix [at] gmail [dot] com.

What kind of music are you making?

My music is somewhere between Elton John, Tori Amos, and Christina Aguilera - big piano-driven pop chords, introspective lyrics and vocal pyrotechnics.

Vocal Pyrotechnics? That's a pretty bold claim.

Bluntly put, I can sing my butt off. A recent example:

(Yes, karaoke is a viable art form.)

I want you to perform / open for me / etc. How do I get in touch?

E-mail me at TaePhoenix [at] gmail [dot] com.

Why Tae Phoenix?

My friends have been calling me some variant of Tae for years. Phoenix represents the cycle of ruin and renewal.

Do you still work for Bobsled by T-Mobile?

Yes indeed, I do! I love my team there. I believe in what we're building. And every aspiring musician needs a day job. If you want to know more about Bobsled - here are the links for that: like / follow / website

Your photography is gorgeous! Who did it?

That would be Michael Rosenberg. He's pretty much a genius with the camera and the only photographer I considered for this project.

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Sun, 23 Oct 2011 10:50:58 -0700 Coolest. Grandmas. Ever. #occupyseattle http://teresavaldezklein.com/coolest-grandmas-ever-occupyseattle http://teresavaldezklein.com/coolest-grandmas-ever-occupyseattle
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Sat, 22 Oct 2011 15:30:42 -0700 Trust @sarakseattle to get "organic fair trade dumpster chocolate" and bring it to #occupyseattle. I say, it's "choccupy Seattle time!" http://teresavaldezklein.com/trust-sarakseattle-to-get-organic-fair-trade http://teresavaldezklein.com/trust-sarakseattle-to-get-organic-fair-trade Trust @sarakseattle to get

Taken with picplz at Westlake Park in Seattle, WA.

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Tue, 18 Oct 2011 15:25:34 -0700 An Open Letter to @MayorMcGinn on Occupy Seattle #occupyseattle http://teresavaldezklein.com/an-open-letter-to-mayormcginn-on-occupy-seatt http://teresavaldezklein.com/an-open-letter-to-mayormcginn-on-occupy-seatt Dear Mayor McGinn,

You have taken an entirely reasonable position in offering City Hall Plaza to the Seattle occupiers. I can see and respect the thorough, mature, adult reasoning in your argument. But just because it's reasonable doesn't make it right. 

I do not take at face value your stated concern that if you let the Occupy Seattle protesters camp at Westlake Park, then you'd have to let the KKK or the Westboro Baptist Church do the same. The argument rings hollow for two reasons:
  1. The hypothetical occupations that either the Klan or Westboro Baptist Church might set up at Westlake Park could be policed carefully for hate speech, which can be legally regulated if it incites violence or prejudicial treatment of any group based on race, gender, ethnicity, nationality, religion, sexual orientation or gender identity.
  2. In principle, you are absolutely right. Groups we disagree with have the same right to occupy public space as groups we do not agree with. If a non-hate organization that I disagreed with - say, the Concerned Women of America - set up an occupation at Westlake Park, I would support their right to do so. But in practice, I just can't see such a thing happening in Seattle. It's too liberal a city, and too hippyish a tactic for a center-right group to employ just to call you out on preferential treatment of Occupy Seattle.
Mr. Mayor - with all due respect - it's time for you to stop throwing a history-making movement under the bus because you're afraid of a future scenario that may never come. Grow some gorram guts.

This movement clearly isn't going to back down on the Westlake Park issue. They GA believes that by moving the occupation to City Hall Plaza, they would relinquish the very power of this movement. And they're right. Because the true power of the Occupy protests is the political mandate they create. They are literally giving progressive politicians permission to grow a backbone and stand up for basic economic sanity in this country. And if you believe as I do that this renewed spinal fortitude is long overdue, then now is the time to back off on Occupy Seattle.

I'm really uncomfortable with the way that the Westlake gathering has degenerated into a hate-a-thon on your office and the Seattle Police Department. I am equally uncomfortable with the idea that my tax dollars are going to arrest people for opening a fracking umbrella while sitting down in Westlake Park. I'm guessing that this whole standoff aggravates you to no end. But this sad, sorry state of affairs is within your power to fix. And if it goes on for much longer, you're just going to end up reinforcing Seattle's image as a passive-aggressive backwater that quibbles over umbrellas in parks rather than focusing on the history-making potency of this movement.

I urge you to reconsider your position and take some risks here. I can't give you an answer - I can only tell you that the one you've arrived at is out of step with the change brewing in this country.

Sincerely,
Teresa Valdez Klein

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Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:16:00 -0700 Learning to fly with Tony Motherflippin' Steele! @ectrapeze you're the awesomest! :-) http://teresavaldezklein.com/learning-to-fly-with-tony-motherflippin-steel http://teresavaldezklein.com/learning-to-fly-with-tony-motherflippin-steel
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Mon, 22 Aug 2011 16:58:00 -0700 Human beings are imperfect. Rape victims are human beings. Therefore... #rapeculture #virginwhore #nameitchangeit http://teresavaldezklein.com/human-beings-are-imperfect-rape-victims-are-h http://teresavaldezklein.com/human-beings-are-imperfect-rape-victims-are-h
Today, New York prosecutors dismissed the rape case against former IMF head Dominique Strauss-Kahn saying:

“The nature and number of the complainant’s falsehoods leave us unable to credit her version of events beyond a reasonable doubt, whatever the truth may be about the encounter between the complainant and the defendant...If we do not believe her beyond a reasonable doubt, we cannot ask a jury to do so.”

There's no doubt about it, the alleged victim, Nafissatou Diallo is a liar. But lots of people are liars, and being a liar does not somehow magically protect anyone from being the victim of a crime. Liars are robbed, beaten and murdered every day - just like every other kind of human being.

So why is nobody looking at the physical evidence in this case and saying, "Nafissatou Diallo is a liar, but the physical evidence suggests that she's probably not lying about this?" Why does nobody at the DA's office have the guts to take this to trial? Cyrus Vance Jr. and his prosecutorial team are copping out of their duty to seek and expose the truth because the accused in this case happens to be a powerful man, and the accuser won't show up like a shiny new penny in court.

We have this notion in our culture that a woman cannot possibly be a victim of rape unless she is an untarnished innocent - blameless, virginal, perfect in every way. The second a woman falls short of that impossible expectation, we aren't believed. That's because we still have this insane expectation of a feminine ideal that leaves no room for women to be, say, human beings. Women can be just as venal, cruel, selfish, arrogant, deceitful and downright nasty as any man. That does not somehow abnegate our right to have the most horrific kind of crimes against us heard in court.

Shame on you, Mr. Vance. Shame.

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Fri, 22 Jul 2011 14:58:43 -0700 Anyone can subvertise. Have you tried it? Help me figure out how to teach others. http://teresavaldezklein.com/anyone-can-subvertise-have-you-tried-it-help http://teresavaldezklein.com/anyone-can-subvertise-have-you-tried-it-help I've been absolutely blown away by the response since the team at Ignite Seattle posted the video of my talk on subverting targeted online advertising. People have been incredibly kind and gracious, and I'm grateful to my dear friend Baratunde Thurston and the community team at Feministing for posting the video so far and wide.

The one thing I wish I'd done better in my talk is to discuss just how easy subvertising is. I've had a couple of people ask me whether you need an advanced degree in Marketing or a lot of money to do this. The answer to both is a resounding "no."

Here are the things you need in order to run your own subversive online advertising:
  1. Enough self-awareness to identify your own insecurities and what advertising does to exacerbate them.
  2. A credit card.
  3. At least $5 to spend, though you'd do better with a budget of $20-$50 if you can afford it.
  4. A computer with an Internet connection.
That said, I know that it can be a little daunting to try something like this when you're not as comfortable with marketing and technology as I am. For that reason, my new goal is to help other people figure out how do this. To that end, I'd love to hear from anyone who has tried it. 

Please leave a comment, or Tweet at me, or e-mail me and tell me:
  • What was your ad about?
  • Who did you target?
  • How much did you spend?
  • What results did you get? 
  • What was hard for you to understand about the ad platform - or what might be difficult for others who are not as technically savvy?

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Wed, 20 Jul 2011 16:20:56 -0700 The ucky, icky targeted ads http://teresavaldezklein.com/the-ucky-icky-targeted-ads http://teresavaldezklein.com/the-ucky-icky-targeted-ads
These are the kinds of ads that prompted me to do my Ignite talk in the first place.

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Wed, 20 Jul 2011 16:01:15 -0700 Imagery from my @ignitesea presentation on subvertising - this is one way to not #actlikealady http://teresavaldezklein.com/imagery-from-my-ignitesea-presentation-on-sub http://teresavaldezklein.com/imagery-from-my-ignitesea-presentation-on-sub

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Tue, 19 Jul 2011 17:33:39 -0700 Excuse me, Stewardess! Whose baby is crawling under my seat? http://teresavaldezklein.com/excuse-me-stewardess-whose-baby-is-crawling-u http://teresavaldezklein.com/excuse-me-stewardess-whose-baby-is-crawling-u
Baby

I'm a big fan of ABC's now-defunct show Supernanny. I think Jo Frost is a hero for holding parents accountable and teaching them how to provide their children with consistency, discipline, and mature, loving attention. Clearly, the parents on my flight to San Francisco Friday afternoon could have used a visit from her.

It wasn't too long after I'd taken my seat that it became clear something was amiss - from the row in front of me, a scratchy little voice was yelling "quit it! stop stealing my DS!!!" and a smaller, higher voice was yelling "give it!!!" I assumed of course that the parents would intervene immediately, but when the screaming continued for 30 seconds without interruption, I stood up to see what was going on. 

To my shock, I saw two little boys fighting over the tops of the seats of the two rows immediately in front of me, howling and playing tug-of-war with a white Nintendo DS. There were no parents in sight - I assumed that they were flying with one caregiver and that this person had gone to the restroom or something. It was at that point that I heard Nanny Jo's voice come out of my mouth."If you two young men don't quiet down right this instant and stop this unruly behavior, I will take that Nintendo DS away from both of you and it will go in toy jail until the end of the flight." Then I told them to settle their disputes like big boys and sat back down. The older boy gave the DS to his younger brother and sat sulking.

I thought nothing more of it until about a half-hour into the flight when I saw a diapered little rear-end disappearing under the tray tables of the row where the younger of the two fighting brothers was sitting. Confused, I got out of my seat and went to see what was going on. The adults in the row - complete strangers, not the parents - were seriously alarmed as a three year-old crawled across their feet. That's when I realized that there were three boys on this flight - all seemingly unattended by anyone, parents or flight attendants.

I bent down, "excuse me, young man," I began, "that's very dangerous. Why don't you come out of there before this gentleman spills his hot coffee on you?"

The boy informed me that he wanted his brother's DS. The middle brother gave me a look that said, "no way, lady."

I somehow managed to convince the middle boy to give the DS to his younger brother, and gave him my iPad to play with. It was at this point that a flight attendant approached me and asked if I was responsible for these boys. I told him that I was not, and that I'd assumed they were flying unaccompanied, but that I like kids and was trying to make sure they were safe. He told me that to the best of his knowledge, the parents were sitting elsewhere on the plane - I assumed they were with the youngest boy - and that if I needed a drink, to be sure to let him know. 

About 15 minutes later, the youngest boy came running back up to me. "I spilled," he said simply.

Then it hit me: the parents were on the plane, but they weren't sitting with any of their kids. They were completely out to lunch, leaving their children including a three year-old baby in pull ups, to the kindness of strangers for the entire two-hour flight.

So I went back with the littlest boy to his seat and helped him clean the apple juice off himself and his seat.

At baggage claim, I saw the parents. They still weren't paying any attention. The three year old was calmly swinging his jacket around and around over his head, hitting passers by. Neither parent did anything - so I stepped in again. "Excuse me, young man," I said, "you could put someone's eye out with that zipper. You need to stop."

He did. Neither parent said anything. I got my suitcase and left, but I kind of wished I could have taken those three sweet, neglected little boys with me.

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Mon, 18 Jul 2011 17:23:38 -0700 Why Birth Control Pills Should be Available Over the Counter http://teresavaldezklein.com/why-birth-control-pills-should-be-available-o http://teresavaldezklein.com/why-birth-control-pills-should-be-available-o
Birthcontrol

Every year, about this time, I go through the following ritual:

  1. Call pharmacy the day before I'm scheduled to start my new pack of birth control pills
  2. Freak out when I'm told I have no more refills
  3. Call my gynecologist's office in a panic - get forced to make an appointment for an exam before they'll fax the Rx (for just one more month) to the pharmacy
  4. Get pills at the last possible second
  5. Take pill
  6. Sigh with relief
The reason behind this ritual is the most paternalistic piece of bullcrap I've ever heard of: in order to get me scheduled for a pap test, doctors put me and every other woman on the pill in this country through the same nonsense every year. 

My dentist doesn't need to put my ovaries in a vise in order to get me to come in for a cleaning - they just have to ask me to schedule an appointment when I leave my last one. My regular doctor doesn't mess around with my ability to control my reproductivity to get me to come in for annual tests and a physical - they just send me a friendly little card in the mail. So why does my gynecologist do it that way?

It seems to me that somewhere along the line, some doctors decided that us ladies couldn't be trusted to get proper medical care for our vaginas without being reminded in the rudest possible way who really has the control in this situation. Hint: it's not us.

Birth control pills have been proven safe and effective for years now. So when are we going to get an option that is available to us over the counter, without having to go through this anxiety-provoking - and potentially pregnancy risk-increasing - annual rigmarole? 

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Sat, 16 Jul 2011 11:30:00 -0700 Ignite Seattle 14: My Talk on Facebook Subvertising http://teresavaldezklein.com/ignite-seattle-14-my-talk-on-facebook-subvert http://teresavaldezklein.com/ignite-seattle-14-my-talk-on-facebook-subvert

This was one of the proudest moments of my 2011 for sure. I had a wonderful time presenting and I'm grateful to the team for inviting me to speak.

 

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Tue, 12 Jul 2011 13:18:02 -0700 Just a mama and her @starbuckbaby. http://teresavaldezklein.com/just-a-mama-and-her-starbuckbaby http://teresavaldezklein.com/just-a-mama-and-her-starbuckbaby
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